Parenting your child is not always easy. Most of us never learned how to teach our children new tasks. Many of us simply use the method that our parents to us. Often this is not the best way.
When it comes to discipline and punishment, many parents simply do not understand the difference. Parenting is a skill that all parents should try to overcome. Here's the difference between punishment and discipline:
the punishment, parent requests suradnju.Dijete are expected to follow the rules without the need to understand why. If he violates the rules, he was punished physically or mentally.
This does not teach a child the right way to behave, it just teaches him how not to get caught.
punishment
punishment has a negative effect on how children think about themselves (they are bad, they are stupid, I can not do anything right ).
to punish the rebels can be picked up. If your child is acting only because they fear reprisal, what happens when the older and larger. What happens if you have not taught him compassion, self-esteem and emotional control?
Would not life be better if our kids did the right thing because they wanted to - not because they were forced to
?Children really want to be good. If you discipline them instead of punishing them, learn how to control their emotions, self respect and compassion.
Discipline
Discipline
...Discipline
...penalty Example:
Mama-year old Jenny is expected to clear the table and wash dishes after dinner. She showed Jenny how to do it on Thursday, and she says that would be her responsibility now.
On Friday, Jenny clears the table after dinner. It runs hot water in the sink - but I can not remember how much soap to use. She is afraid to ask my mom how much dish soap to use because mom might get mad at her not remembering. So too squirts soap in
sink within two inches of water and soap bubbles to the top of the sink. She can not get all the dishes clean, because she tries to wash the dishes, without enough water. She is still afraid to go ask my mom for help. She does not want to be yelled at. Already hate this job.
Mom comes into the kitchen and see what happened.
"What are you doing?" she yells. "Can not you see that you are too soap and see how you stack your dishes. You're lucky not to fall and break on the counter. What is the floor?'ve Made a mess. Gubi senačin. I have to fix the slop or they will never get board clean. Take this cloth and wash the table. Maybe you can get it right ."
Jenny slinks onto the table and it washes away, and my mother sink and add a little water and dish soap.
Note: Once again, she would make sure Jenny knows how much soap to use children do not learn osmosis!. They should be taught how to do every job that is expected of them. It would be far less time to teach mom Jenny all the steps involved - and be prepared to answer questions, if Jenny forget a step. At this rate, Jenny will not learn this simple task for a few days. - I will be miserable few days for Jenny
.After Jenny is washing dishes and setting the drying rack, mom comes out to inspect.
"You left the food on this board. Can not get anything good? Take this back plate and wash it again. I told you to make sure each dish was clean. Do not listen to?"
Not only is Jenny hate this job, she will hate the rest of his life. She will try to find ways to get out of it does. I probably will not remember why she hates it so much.
Jenny Mom has contributed to low self-esteem. Jenny thinks it's silly, sloppy, and does not listen well. She hates the chore, and she is learning to hate themselves.
Do you see the sentence? It is not physical. It was mental - and that will hurt Jenny for the rest of his life,
.the same example using the discipline
Mama-year old Jenny is expected to clear the table and wash dishes after dinner. She showed Jenny how to do it on Thursday, and she says that would be her responsibility now. She tells Jenny to make sure to ask if there are any questions.
On Friday, Jenny clears the table after dinner. It runs hot water in the sink - but I can not remember how much soap to use. She finds a mother and admits that she forgot how to use soap.
Mom comes into the kitchen and began to slop. She takes the bottle and squeezes three drops under running water.
"It usually takes three to four drops." she says. "You'll hang of it after a few days." (Promotion) It was then left Jenny with a reminder that it will be close if Jenny has more questions.
Jenny washes dishes with no more problems. She felt proud of myself for achieving a new task.
Mama check out the job. "Si a great job, Jenny. I see you've remembered, rinse the soap from the sink when you're finished. This is great!" (Praise attempts)
then mom goes, "Oh, look at this board. There is still food on it. Rewash You have that one. It will only take a minute and then the job will be perfect." (Point out the errors, without lowering effort .)
Jenny feels proud of himself because he accomplished the task without too many mistakes. She has learned what he did wrong and that they will get it right tomorrow.
She can not wait until tomorrow, when she knows that he will be able to do the task without help.
Mama raised her confidence Jenny learns how to perform the task, and praising her effort. She has helped Jenny through the difficult parts of a task without feeling Jenny glupo.Dvije errors that Jenny will be remembered not because mom just told her how to correct them, and still ensure that Jenny does not feel bad about yourself.
Discipline gives children who are happy to do chores
Jenny's on the road to growing up with a good self-esteem and good work habits. Jenny will never hate doing dishes. It is May you had, but the task will not bother her.
a look at some of the ways in which you expect your children to complete tasks. Try to find ways to help them do the job right without putting the child down.
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